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Repairing after an argument on no sleep

What you need to know

Sleep deprivation shortens the fuse for both of you. Repair matters more than avoiding the conflict.

Why it matters

Unrepaired small conflicts are how postpartum resentment compounds.

What this looks like in real life

You both snapped over the dishwasher. It was never about the dishwasher.

What to say

  • I was short with you and I don't want to leave it there.
  • You were right that I waited to be told.

What not to say

  • We're both tired, let's just drop it.
  • You're overreacting.

One action today

Name one thing you got wrong today, out loud, without adding a defence.

Knowledge check

The most useful repair move is:

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